Ah, He Got A GF!

These are the things I know why dating is important. We learn much about other. We learn not to be self-centered, we learn to listen, we learn to find a mutual way out, and we learn about the opposite sex—in some cases the latter could be excluded.

But let me ask. If you’re out of date—no matter why: haven’t recovered from your last broken heart, not many attractive guys around—is it so important to go out for a new dating appointment as soon as possible like finding a job so you can pay the bills or like getting a new pair of running shoes when your old ones have been worn out?

You might not be looking for Mr. Perfect—in my version is a hottie, 6 ft tall, broad shoulders, has that Wentworth Miller look and an Alex Band smile, knows how to be a good citizen and folds his flag in a separate corner of his wardrobe, and devotes his life for the poverty and hungry children in Africa (Amen!)—but if you haven’t found a man with the chemistry you’re expecting to find, would you date any man just to have a date?

I wouldn’t do that. I think it would be like lying to the man, pretending that I like him while I actually don’t. And I don’t think it is a good thing to do.

Wentworth Miller - Alex Band

I am not looking for a Mr. Perfect, as I believe that nobody is perfect. A person with the right chemistry is all I need. Although, I know sometimes chemistry can come to the wrong person too, like meeting someone who has a pretty smile and a decent job, charming, generous, humble—well, too good to be true—and just when I think it’s time to make a move, I find out that he’s already had a girlfriend. Oh, stupid Cupid!

What Becomes Of The Broken Hearted

I remember this Paul Young’s old hit. I was 11 years old then, was so into music charts—Casey’s Top 40 by Casey Kasem, US Top 40, Billboard Hot 100—and loved the tune of the broken heart song. Lately, I've just realized that this was not really an original song by Paul Young, in other words, Paul Young was one of the covers. This song was originally of Jimmy Ruffin - whoever he was - and I said one of, because there were many other covers (thanks to Wikipedia): Diana Ross & The Supremes (1969), Dave Stewart (1981), Robson & Jerome (1996), Joe Crocker (1998), Vonda Shepard (1999), Westlife (2000), Joan Osborne and The Funk Brothers (2002), The dB'd (2005), even a German band called Blue Lagoon (2007).

What is so interesting with a broken hearted? Today, while having lunch with some co-workers, I also discussed about broken hearted.

This might not be an amusing topic, but I’m sure almost everyone has been broken hearted even just once.

My life is not that broken heart free either—as if broken hearts were like sugar: Diet coke, sugar free!—not at all. I recall there were several times I was broken hearted. Some need a quick recovery, some take such a long time.

I remember one of my broken heart moments. It was a sweet boy with a genuine smile and sincere eyes. He was almost perfect. I said, almost. Except that he was unpredictable, and I couldn’t play guessing game anymore. It wasn’t because I was mad, I just thought that this kind of relationship did not suit us. I could not pretend that everything was ok when it actually wasn’t. I don’t think I should force myself into something that I am not able to.

I was broken hearted. Even though I made the decision in a total consciousness, in my perfect healthy condition, but still, knowing that I was losing moments we used to share together, the comforting words, the affection … it did take lots of tears!

A broken heart. What happens to it? When all the sweet things become bitter. When all the curiosities and excitements become boredom. When two different worlds are getting further and further and seems no single way on earth to unite. When the sparks are gone. When the fire fades away. When a small error becomes a big fatal fault. When all the perfect things become mistakes. You’re near but you seem on the other side of the world.

Then it leaves a pain inside your chest. Tears come without you exactly know how they start.

A broken heart. Sometimes another heart is the winner. Sometimes all are losers. But I guess it’s every lover has to go through. I might say it’s a phase of a relationship a couple might or might not face. It leaves us lessons to learn what to fix, what to change, and… it is not easy.

Some other references of broken heart songs (aiyaa...) :

1. Other Side Of The World - KT Tunstall

2. Someday We'll Know - New Radicals / Mandy Moore and Jonathan Foreman

3. Go On Girl - Ne Yo

4. The Long Goodbye - Ronan Keating

5. Can't Cry Hard Enough - William Brothers

This list does not recommend Queen's Love of My Life, because I'm suspecting it to stimulate the desire for committing suicide of a broken hearted person.